💬 Help! Help?
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Hola amigos y amigas!
We more than survived our first Lounge Chat. We got that ball rolling, alright! So here’s our next one. (I’m still testing the frequency and day of the week this comes out, so bear with me, please.)
I hope you’ll jump in and join the chat. As I said the last time, it’s your voice and energy that will make The Lounge the supportive, fun, and friendly community it’s meant to be.
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Housekeeping done, let’s get to it!
Starting something new can be exciting, but let’s be honest — it can also be intimidating. Whether it’s learning a skill, dabbling in a new hobby, or making a life change, that beginner phase often comes with a landmine of doubts and wobbles.
And then there are the expectations we pile on ourselves. Oh my goodness, this is my problem! No matter how much I remind myself, “I’m just a beginner here,” and of course, I’ll mess up (after all, that’s supposed to be part of the fun!), those pesky expectations still manage to show up.
That’s where having some support makes all the difference. It helps quiet the self-doubt and reminds us that we’re not alone in feeling this way. Sometimes, it’s practical help, like guidance from someone who’s been there. Being part of a group of people trying the same thing (like joining a challenge) can be super helpful, too. Other times, it’s as simple as having a cheerleader who believes in you when your own confidence is shaky.
“We don’t have to do all of it alone. We were never meant to.” — Brené Brown
So, here’s today’s chat prompt:
📌 What kind of support has made the biggest difference when you’re trying something new? Do you prefer to start solo, with a buddy, or in a group?
Hi Lou. My first response to your question was that I prefer to start out alone. Until I remembered that one of my most successful adventures, the creation of my business, I did with partners. I had always preferred to work alone. My two partners preferred to work collaboratively. I was the visionary and the innovator in the group, and often worked on my ideas for awhile before I brought them to my partners. They would tinker. I would resist. Until it dawned on me, that they were actually making the ideas better. So I started bringing them earlier, before I got attached. That was when the collaboration really began to take flight.
I’m definitely a loner at least initially. Also I’m a pioneer so usually out front, but with close people right behind me. So I feel supported. Great question!